Reserve Your Spot
~ Non-threatening
~ Compassionate
~ Resolves your feelings
~ Resolves your partner's feelings
NOW IS THE TIME TO LEARN
The 5-Step Listening Ladder is a unique somatic approach, so couples (trouples, quads, +) can STOP TALKING and START COMMUNICATING.
The fancy pants word for the process is
Neuro-Cognitive Relational Reconfiguration
It can be easy to learn, even fun.
Click here to learn more:
Get it on.
and seek marriage counseling:
1. Responsibility
2. Routine
3. Recoiling
The Answer:
1. Reprioritize The Relationship
2. Create Novelty
3. Communicate
LESS TALKING. MORE CONNECTING.
Even with infidelity, cheating, sexual dysfunctions, low libido, and lack of attraction, marriage can rebound with vitality
No matter how long you've been married...
Its NEVER too late to DATE YOUR SPOUSE
Intimacy Exercises
This can be done in session by:
- Creating new neural associations
- Shifting internal narratives
- Shift stored energy in the body
- New Communication memory
It’s not just about healing past wounds—it’s about reorganizing the internal patterns (neural, emotional, relational, and somatic) that were formed in response to trauma so they no longer unconsciously govern behavior, relationships, or self-worth.
Somatic Empowerment
Exercise #1
Parts Letter
Write a letter from one part of you (like your inner child or critic) to another to build self-understanding and compassion. Unleash all of it without restraint.
Exercise #2
NO Self Boxing
Practice saying “No” with your voice and body when by yourself. Use hand gestures to create space and build boundary-setting confidence. RAISE YOUR VOICE.
Exercise #3
Cry Like Hell
Give yourself a safe space to lose your shit, let it rip, and let it out. Cry, cry, cry, and then cry more. Repeat.
Exercise #4
Dance It Out
Just one song. Pick one song a day and move freely to release emotion and reconnect with your body—no rules, just expression. Bonus points if you're naked.
Services
1:1 Telehealth/ In Person
Text to schedule your free consultation 805-242-3335
Couples Weekend Therapy Intensive
Text to schedule your free consultation 805-242-3335
Clinician Training
25 Somatic Exercises for Your Therapy Practice Text to schedule your free consultation at 805-242-3335
Self Love Reigns Supreme
No blame zones - even for cheating/infidelity
Weekly Homework Exercises
Different session options (1-3 hours, intensives, playful)
Diversity Yes! (Queer, Non-Binary, Religion, BIPOC, ENM, BDSM, )
Every session starts with breathing & grounding
Neurocognitive Approach
Trauma Sensitive
Healthy Anger Expressions
Compassionate Patience
Tantra Practioner
M.A. Clinical Psychology
PhD Student - Modern Sex Therapy Institute
This training is unique and revolutionary as Raven uses her experience as a Tantra Practioner prior to becoming an AMFT. Each exercise is tailored to be clinically appropriate.
The revolutionary 5-STEP LISTENING LADDER alone will rejuvenate your practice giving you a powerful tool to share with couples that has taken couples from wanting to divorce to finally feeling heard, seen, and understood for the first time in sometimes decades!
The 5-STEP LISTENING LADDER is unique because of its blend of somatic-based exercises rooted in Tantra with active listening.
Available in person or online.
*Not available for CEU at this time.
The 5 Step Listening Ladder Do it At Home Course
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Blog
The Cure for Blended Family Burnout
This article explores the emotional complexity of blended families, especially when co-parenting with exes, navigating trauma, raising neurodivergent children (like those with autism or ADHD), and managing financial stress. It highlights the unique struggles of both masculine and feminine roles, the exhaustion parents face, and the chaotic behaviors that test every limit. Blended family expert Raven Avery outlines three key steps to survive and thrive: strengthening the parenting team, raising your threshold of tolerance, and releasing the fantasy of what you thought family should look like.
How To Build An Intimacy Plan for Stressful Times. Why Every Couple Needs One.
This article introduces the concept of an Intimacy Plan—a practical, four-part strategy every couple should have in place to stay emotionally connected during stressful life transitions like moving, long work hours, or family visits. Drawing from somatic and relationship therapy practices, it guides couples to establish a 60-second daily ritual, communicate stress responses in advance, clarify expectations around sex and affection, and set a post-chaos reconnection date. Grounded in nervous system awareness and emotional intelligence, this plan helps couples stay grounded, reduce misunderstandings, and strengthen authentic love—even in the middle of life’s storms.
Sacred Eros & Timeless Love: Embracing an Ageless Desire
Sacred Eros is a timeless energy life force with roots in Tantra. Once embraced you can begin to experience how ageless intimacy really is and you don't have to worry about being past your prime ever again.
Why It's Hard For Men To Ask Their Wives for Sex: Challenges in Modern Relationships
Learn what obstacles men face when wanting to ask for more sex from their wives. Also applies to all gendered relationships.
Testimonials
Mayra Sernas Mendez
AMFT
My favorite part of the clinician training with was getting into my body and doing the exercises. I learned so much about how our body language communicates and influences others. I highly recommend this training!
Lynetta
@thesoulmatecoaches
I couldn't believe all the intimacy exercises provided in the One Day Retreat Experience! I felt so much closer to my husband and still do!