Specialties

Raven Avery Specialties

I provide in-person couples therapy and sex therapy in Santa Barbara, San Luis Obispo County, and Pismo Beach, California, via telehealth for a range of relationship, intimacy, and sexual concerns. Below are common areas I support.

Sexual Function & Performance Concerns

I work with individuals and couples navigating common and complex sexual concerns, including:

  • Erectile Dysfunction (ED)
  • Premature / Delayed Ejaculation
  • Low Libido / Low Sexual Desire
  • Desire Discrepancy in Relationships
  • Sexual Performance Anxiety
  • Pain During Sex & Intimacy (Pelvic Pain)

Relationship & Life Transitions

Navigating Change

  • Infidelity / Affair Recovery
  • Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal
  • Divorce & Separation
  • Grief & Loss

Intimacy Concerns

  • Sexless Marriage
  • Loss of Attraction
  • Lack of Intimacy
  • Rebuilding Sexual Connection

Communication, Connection & Emotional Health

We will focus on key areas to improve connection and emotional health:

  • Developing healthier communication patterns
  • Managing Anxiety & Depression within relationships
  • Navigating emotional disconnect
Identity and Expression

Identity & Expression

  • Sexual Orientation
  • Alternative Relationship Styles
  • Polyamory & ENM
  • BDSM / Kink Dynamics
Trauma and Experiences

Trauma & Experiences

  • Sexual Trauma
  • Emotional Trauma
  • Religious (Jehovah’s Witness) Trauma
  • Narcissistic Relationship Patterns

Teen & Young Adult Support

  • Teen anxiety — constant worry, panic, overwhelm, school stress
  • Teen depression — isolation, sadness, sleeping all day, loss of motivation
  • Teen anger — explosive outbursts, yelling, aggression, constant conflict
  • Defiant or rebellious teen — refusing rules, lying, sneaking out, “out of control” behavior
  • Teen school refusal — won’t go to school, failing grades, frequent absences

Gain Clarity on Your Patterns

Take the neuro-somatic questionnaire to recognize relationship patterns that often operate outside of conscious awareness.